Pyramid of Growth
It’s trendy now to be on a journey of…
“Healing”
Yet there’s one fatal flaw in the idea of healing yourself.
Which is why many have healed…
But they have not yet moved on.
Here’s what’s holding you back on your healing journey.
First… when we think about healing…
It usually means to over come trauma or some other experience.
It carries the idea that…
Something exist within us that needs to be repaired.
The way we’ve been living our life has not been in accordance with our higher desires because there is a piece of us that is broken.
So you go heal these wounds and you make repairs.
Maybe you call them… your inner child wounds.
At this point…
You get stuck.
Why?
Because healing is not the end state.
It is an important step on the journey, but the journey continues.
Have you noticed that there are so many…
“Healed” people who are still stumbling?
Maybe they’ve fallen into the trap of spiritual narcissism.
Or they’re in their “freedom” era making tons of consequential decisions.
While you may believe you have healed…
You have simply become a reflection.
By creating a mirror image of the state that you were in before.
Because you’re still holding on to something.
One thing a healed person lacks…
Is the ability to create change in others.
They are unable to influence the external world as a result of changes they’ve made on their internal one.
Maybe you’re healed…
But the job still isn’t what you want it to be.
The relationship still isn’t how you desire.
All because…
There’s that anchor which is still keeping you down.
Which is the story.
The story that you were even broken in the first place.
Maybe you have a tough relationship with your parents.
And now you’ve healed that within yourself.
You’ve developed coping mechanisms and have decided that when you are around them…
Internally you will not allow their energy to dominate you.
You set boundaries.
And you won’t show up unless they’re upheld.
That’s how many people define being “healed”.
However…
Now look at you.
You have a bunch of “conditions” on the terms that need to be upheld in order for you to maintain this state of being healed.
While some might called this healed.
It’s more like thoughtful avoidance if you ask me.
So what is the state above being healed?
Releasing.
First you learn to cope.
By simply putting up with what disrupts you.
Then you heal and set up defense to protect yourself.
Eventually… you become so strong you realize you don’t need boundaries.
You become the one who can heal others.
Where healing stops short is the release of the attachments.
To truly be “healed” is for that idea to no longer exist within you.
You are neither broken nor fixed.
You simply understand.
And because you understand…
You’re able to let go.
Let go of the identity that believe things didn’t go exactly as they should.
Have you ever met someone… or seen them through media…
Where they just radiate this energy which makes you want to change?
That is what you feel when someone has released.
They’re operating at such a level that others will find it difficult to disrupt.
It causes others to suddenly become aware of their own destructive behavior.
And because that person has now been exposed to awareness.
They have an opportunity to understand.
The must also… make a choice.
Just like you once did.
When you first found that teacher, book or podcast.
When you hold this higher energy…
That disruptive person has to decide.
Between rising to your energy…
Or becoming entrenched in their own energy.
If they stay entrenched, often it’s them who will push away from you.
This happens naturally by way of resonance.
Without you needed to set the boundary.
Imagine this…
Instead of setting boundaries and avoiding your parents that disrupt you.
You stuck around.
And with love, the next time there was a disruption…
You gave them the truth.
“When you do this… it makes you an awful person to be around”
What do you think their reaction might be?
“Well you don’t have to be around me then!”
Now what if you stuck around, and did this every time there was disruption?
Eventually they would have to make a choice.
They would have to learn to match your energy…
Or start avoiding you.
You might start becoming annoying to them.
This work can work as long as you don’t give into the aggression they throw at you.
It must start with love.
While yes it is true… you can’t force people to change.
What you can do is make change seem like a drug.
It has to appear so enticing that the other person wants to have a taste.
“What kind of crack is he smokin'”
That’s the curiosity your state of non-attachment should inspire in others.
That’s what releasing does, that healing fails to do.
It breaks the other persons status quo and exposes them to a new vibration that they could tap in to…
If they embody what they see in you.
Notice that when you set boundaries these effects don’t happen.
Because you disappear, and never give them the opportunity to learn from you.
Release on the other hand…
It teaches.
It doesn’t set boundaries.
It is not attached to what you think of it…
Or how you are going to react to it…
Most people who heal…
Just flip polarities.
If they lacked masculine…
They learned to set boundaries.
If they lacked feminine…
They learned to be vulnerable and experience emotion.
Ultimately the place to land is in the middle.
This is the middle way.
Where you can release that energy back into the void.
Compassion…
Unconditional love…
These are representative of the state of release.
No matter what happens in the external world.
You’re still going to shower it with love…
Because you understand this divine creation.
How it works, and how the other person is simply just trying to cope with what they’re experiencing.
Overstand that…
Healing is more like a clogged pipe than a broken watch.
There is no part of you that needs to be repaired.
You are perfect already as a spark of divinity.
What is holding you down is…
The gunk you continue to carry inside of you.
When you allow this to be released…
And change the story you keep telling yourself.
Source will flow through you.
Don’t heal…
Release.